Title??? ummm..hmmm...ammmm

The weather is all perfect to go on for long drives these days. Unfortunately, my driving route encounters heavy Begumpet traffic before I reach my office. But the best part is that it gives me more time to enjoy my favourite numbers ;)...was listening to one Rock On song (yeh tumhari meri baatein) when the sky appeared so beautiful to me; I could spot 2-3 layers of clouds - the ones in the lowest layer were chasing each other as if they were playing some Olympic game, the second layer was supervising the lowest layer and the top layer was silent as if watching each of them with patience. It seemed so perfect and so natural to me. And then my eyes came down and I thanked God for I can appreciate the beauty of nature - and the very next moment I witnessed the plight of a small girl asking me for some money. It was so ironic, I wondered if that girl had had ever looked at the clouds in that way. But I cant be so sure, perhaps she did.....I get sad...sad to the core when I see somebody in pain. Yesterday itself I entered into an argument with Mum when she was about to kill a poor cockroach...I had to drag the small creature out of the home somehow ...to save it (well, that was a big task :|).

Well...Its Diwaliiii tomorrow - festivals instill a different kind of excitement in all of us! Atleast I feel great to celebrate such moments...it bonds us together. Moreover, I just love the lighting all around...isn't it amazing to see sky full of multi-colored lights, all those crackers, the delicious food at home, the candles in gurudwaras and the diyas all around! Complete aeshhh...

I hope to have a good time and wish that this Diwali and the coming new year brings with it a lot of happiness, peace n prosperity! God bless...

Attitude and you!

"Hey!"..."Good morning guys"..."Hello, how was the weekend?" these are one of the few ways I (want and ) usually start my day in office! It definitely makes me feel energetic in the beginning hours (the drowsiness an hour after opening my laptop is another matter though, we all need a tea break in the morning; dont we? ;)).

I really love putting myself completely into whatever I do and if there is a single doubt or uncertainty in any corner of my heart, I would not succeed 70% of the times. I strike a ratio of around 60-40% of optimism and pessimism (bad score but yeah I'll improve!). These numbers mature with experience and what we need to do is to focus on our weaknesses keeping our strengths in mind. Once you know where you are wrong, the next moment you see perfection embracing you gracefully.

Sometimes people wants to change their jobs just because of ego clashes, for their inefficiency to gel with the people around etc. I think there is no worse time to look for a new job than when you hate the one you have. Rather we should try to change our attitude and get to the root of our problems so we can get the most from the current job — and maybe even like it again.

I believe this aspect goes well with any any kind of situation. The more I learn from my mistakes, the more i feel i need to work on. Our lives are sometimes like a sacred book, you get a new meaning every time you read the same sentence when the fact is that there is only one significance to it!

Chao till next time..

"Cast your cares on God; that anchor holds"

Do you ever stare into the mirror not wondering at what you see but wondering at what you dont see, what is within your heart, what makes you so lively, what motivates you..what drives you to make your dream a reality....why despite all failures you still feel confident that you will succeed...Do you ever see any answers or do you just find more questions?

In tough times and terrible moments, what do I do? Should I demand that God please fix my problem ...make them fade away or help me find a way out so i can run away or should I ask how he is revealing His self in these situations and ask for enough wisdom and strength to go through it?

I heard someone saying "Hardship and trial come by two ways, by God's will and by our disobedience." and i feel either way there is learning. Waheguru loves us, he is with us always...he dreams great for our lives...but should I risk to follow that dream?? hmmmm...

We were discussing on "fearing God" at lunch table today. I asked my pals and got various replies. I am thinking as to why should we be afraid of God when we say he is with us all the times...he loves us. But again at the same time, we should be afraid of Him as he can punish us anytime for our wrong deeds.

Sometimes i feel He has a plan for us, he has dreamt something for us, he wants somebody to instruct us, he wants us to treasure some moments, he wants us to move ahead, he wants us to be perfect ...the way everyone should be. He knows us so well that our fears, weaknesses, strengths are all part of the plan. Our fears are our limits...the boundaries which He will make us cross. I believe in Him...and so will i act....i'll move in the direction he has chosen for me. May He direct and guide me to become the woman of His choice!!! :)

Listening to the silence!

I've often wondered how we walk through the lanes of life, how the priorities keep on changing as we move ahead. Sometimes we don’t see anything in dark but still find our way out. I believe in "that" force which is driving us.

As a child, my ultimate desire at EOD had always been to convince mum for letting us play a little longer in the evening. She used to sit along with us for finishing the homework and we three innocently looking at each other used to plan "something" for getting out of the room...i guess thats when i started liking cricket so much. The priority was to play (come wat may be...). :-) I had my favourite subjects in school...and today i think it was all because of my teachers. I never liked my History ma'am (not that i hated her...please mind it!! :P ) and thats why i never liked this subject also. I was the favourite student of my maths and english teachers and therefore those were "the interesting" subjects too: P :P. So it depends a lot on the teachers to develop that likeliness in the subject (deep thought........). Then there were times when i became a true Indian, a patriotic heart which used to cry so much thinking of our freedom fighters. All the 15th aug and 26th Jan movies on Doordarshan were a must must watch. The priority had changed a bit. With time, studies were on peak and the "career" too. That competition, those thoughts of doing something...changed the priorities too. Knowingly...unknowingly there was something to achieve. And later the final entry into the world, the college…. and with time a job in hand! At every point of time, there was an aim, a faith which like an infection was easy to catch and impossible to stamp out.

With all the personal and professional experiences, i've witnessed the "me"...myself; and m no less than proud of it!! :-)

I dream of getting a restful sleep "every" night, waking up refreshed and invigorated...a dream to live in a landscape which would resound with an eloquent silence under the inverted bowl of the sky where you share your experiences with ur loved ones, where u "live" ur life!!!

There are many milestones to cross, many desires to be fulfilled, many hopes to keep up, many aims to achieve!!!

Hmmm..

I am coming


I know it's wrong
So I commit to it
I laugh at the clean, black emptiness
Of the unknown before me
I laugh heartily
Knowing the darkness can hear me
And while the Angels would hush me
I bellow out with arms extended
I am here.
Free!
And though I respect you, Great Beyond
Today, with your attention
I let you know…
I am coming!


Keoki Trask

Women's Day!

Holiday honors people or events and one of those meaningful days is today – Women’s day! There is life because of her, she makes living a life, she makes house a home, she nurtures happiness in a family, she goes out of the way to care for her loved ones, she is strong, she is bold & dynamic & progressive, she is beautiful and that "she" resides in me! :-)

All the newspapers were full of appreciation for today’s women – for managing home and establishing herself as a successful professional in the outside world. Undoubtedly this deserves an applause for all the women because she has the power to organize a shambolic environment, she tote that love for her closed ones, she helps you see the shore when you in middle of a turbulent ocean, she gives you hope, she lights candle towards the right road, she is the dor of your life!!

I have always adored Mother Teresa for her determination, that perseverance towards such an admirable cause. Even if I could do a bit of what she did, it would be worth my life. Many women have influenced my being and on this special occasion I would like to specially thank my mom and sis for being a tremendous support every time. I’m thankful to my mom for bringing that glass of water every morning to wake me up, for making me eat the breakfast at any cost, for listening to my crap in the evenings, for cooking those special dishes every time we demand, for hugging me when I’m sad, for making me thank God for good, for buying those cute dresses and accessories she thinks would look great on me :-) basically for everything. Love you mummm! And of course the same goes for my cutie cutie sister. Her strongness, calmness and that willpower has always inspired me in my life. I thank you for making me smile, for guiding me always, for holding me strong when I fall, for not judging me when I lose my mind, for trusting, loving and for being with me always. I miss our occasional spats sis…I just miss being with you! Love you a lot!!!! And I don’t want to overlook this opportunity to thank my father and brother as well. You all are part of me and I respect and love you all!

Not to forget I would like to thank all my friends too who have been with my ups and downs, who celebrates my success, my happiness, who understands me. I thank you for listening to me when you are busy, for all those surprise gifts, for shutting your mouth when I’m angry, for taking those zabardasti ki treats, for making that cup of tea or getting that bottle of coke, for making me realize that i'm th best :-) :-) . In short, for being there even after knowing all about me ;) ;)

Man, this is like getting an Oscar award and thanking everyone out there. But trust me, when I see so many nice people around me, it feels no less than that.

I just wish everyone to be happy always – God bless us!! I just watched one of my favourite movies today – "Dor" and here’s a few lines I liked the most, remember them (and remind me :-) ) when down!

"Yeh Hosla Kaise Juke….Yeh Aarzoo Kaise Ruke…Manzil Muskil to kya…Bundla Sahil to kya..... Hooo…"


Lets raise a toast for ourselves and celebrate the occasion!!

Unforgettable moment...

Don't remember if I've ever had a more visceral reaction to any incident recently than I did to what happened today. I was traveling in an auto amidst heavy traffic when at a junction, i noticed a small pigeon stuck in middle of the road, trying its best to fly and the cars were zooming besides it like anything. For a second, i got scared to witness the plight of the poor bird but the next moment i could spot a traffic guy looking at me. I waived at him and pointed to the struggling creature and to my amazement, he started walking towards the road, raised his hand up and stopped the traffic for a while. He lifted the pigeon gently and carried it to a safe place near the junction. I gave him a thumps up and a big smile!!!!! (God, that was a moment) I wanted to thank him personally but it was too late as my auto guy zoomed ahead with the changed green signal in front of us.

I felt so good! I guess such moments just give you a feeling that cannot be explained. But yes, it deserves to be part of my blog to be cherished forever and of course three cheers for that traffic man!

Heaven on earth!

A beautiful day..i can capture the moments in my camera but just felt like weaving them into a series of words. Sitting in my room and watching the drops of rain striking against the window is somehow making me feel wonderful! The birds swaying high...black clouds and a bright spot of light visible amidst a few - huge ships....small boats...the lightening...the still water...big buildings enjoying the shower :-) - the view is just breathtaking!

I’ve started thinking about my life in general. How speedy it has become these days. The serenity of the “life” is lost, I feel. In pursuit of happiness, we are chasing “time” as fast as possible. Jump off the bed in the morning – get ready – attack the breakfast plate – the “office world” – socialize - crib about people irritating you - reach home with the left over energy -- watch TV for sometime - spend some quality time with your family/friends (if you are amongst those privileged ones).

I wonder if this is actually what is meant by a peaceful, quality and good life. Life has taken a super duper fast lane – readymade meals are available; the task is just to chew it and swallow the stuff (which will also get automated with time, I’ve full faith in our technology :-) ) – no need to go out for fresh air; ACs are far better…right!?! – Take short cuts wherever possible – ever watched a movie without fast-forwarding some boring numbers – we do everything to conclude the jobs before time. But wait a moment, where is the speed breaker Boss? I think we need to pause our everyday activities for some time daily and “cash out” those special moments with our interests, our likings – in short with ourselves!

Got to rush now...will continue with my incredible thoughts laterz!

A Poem..

This poem is given in the Egyptian section of the INDIAN MUSEUM, Kolkata. The beauty of the poem is the type of thoughts that were there even such a long time ago.

THE WISDOM OF ANY


When you are a young man
When you take a wife and set up a home
Remember how your mother brought you into the world
And with what embracing care she nurtured you

Do not let your conduct in the household be too high and mighty
Never lord it on your wife
If you know that she is a gentle hearted woman
Do not say to her “where is so and so? Bring it here!”
When she has put it away carefully in some safe place

Keep her beneath your eyes and watch her silently
In appreciation of her worth
She is contented with your hand rest upon her.

Another Expectation - (this time) from your mind!!

There are times when we put all our efforts to achieve something. We feel great dreaming our dream!! But does life always give us the opppurtunity to realize it ...to make it real? I believe it does 'coz its all dependent on us how we shape it...how we move ahead but no denying the fact that at times we do end up at a place where we see everything for nothing.
I have been witnessing various ups-downs in the life of my closed ones. Some are struggling to cement certain relationships and others are crying for they couldn't get that chance to build a foundation. Life is a gift given to us by God which starts with our birth and ends the moment we die. We are blessed with all the senses...we are ALIVE...then why dont we make it as beautiful as possible. We always seek happiness...get attached to people from whom we get positive vibrations. Just a few days ago i read "Losing an illusion makes one wiser than finding a truth". How true....we always want to dream of things which makes us happy...no matter even if it is an illusion..but yes one should never stop dreaming ('coz it makes u happy :-)). I believe all the energy lies within us...we should be able to give direction to our thoughts...should be able to control our head. Sounds so true n so easy but it definitely comes into the category of 'Easier said than done'. Again my personal belief has always been to do things which others think is difficult to attain. I heard someone saying that these things ...these thoughts are all bookish. What i dont understand is - even if it is, why wudn't i imbibe them or atleast try to...what one thinks is what one inculcates...so i'll defninitely try to approach it....atleast!!
The best way to overcome your fears and tensions is to go for things u feel doubtful about. At times we don’t have the control over certain thoughts...in such situations, one should not run away from these thoughts but rather face the situation and convince yourself bout the repercussions.The more we approach negativity with patience and cool head, the more positive we become. I believe, any work....any action is bootless if you are doing it just for the sake of finishing it. One must have that urge to complete it.

With position comes responsibilites

No matter what kind of job a person is doing, I respect him if he is sincere towards his work. That regard...that appreciation comes straight from my heart if he works honestly. I have had an experience today which took me aback for a second. We were having lunch when one of my senior collegue shouted at a waitor for keeping him wait for a "Nan". I was totally astonished to see the way people deal with waiters. I mean for God sake...even he is working. Okay...let me rephrase...even he is earning. "Humbleness"....yes thats the word. Humblesness should come with position otherwise i could see no difference between a person earning in lakhs and the one serving in a hotel. When everybody started scolding the poor chap..i intervened and made everybody to discontinue the discussion. I dont know why..i felt bad for this act of mine for a few jiffies ....probabaly because all were seniors and also it was partially the waiter's mistake as well. But i was not guilty because i respected "him" for his work..and he was not serving that bad. What i detested the most was the way "they" spoke to him....it was totally uncalled for. Anyways i am happy for i saved someone's self respect. :-) and definitely learnt a lesson that "with position comes responsibilites" and the domain of this word "responsibility" includes you to speak & act nicely, politely and gracefully.

The Alchemist

I always had a pechant for reading "The Alchemist" and was full of vitality when got a chance to go through the most talked book amongst my peers. It teaches the basic fundamentals of Life - to have a firm belief in youself...to imbibe heuristic knowledge...to trust your instincts...ur hunches...your dreams...your will...and most importantly the power to realize and make them true!! 'Destiny' is the keyword here. :-)

Somehow I could relate myself with the main character in the story "the boy", Santiago (I dont remember his name mentioned anywhere else but in the first line...:-)). The best part was the 'very human' demeanour that he maintained throughout. The self-control and the desire & urge to acheive something was awe-inspiring. I had encountered this word - 'MAKHTUB' at one place and was happy to understand its meaning...(I liked it ...!).

In addition, there are a few lines which really mark their strong presence in the book...(i just loved the way the author put them so simply...)

"Every one seems to have a clear idea of how others should lead their lives but none their own "

You can vanqish anything when you dig deep into the meaning of -

"When you really want something, When you desire it will all your heart, all the universe conspires in helping you achieve it"

Isn't it a plain statement that keeps you thinking for long - "One is loved because one is loved. No reason is needed for loving. Love is the Force that transforms and improves the soul of the world."

The "Soul of the World", "Soul of God" are a few more entities that existed in the book throughout and definitely induces a delightful learning!

After reading the book, i was forced to think about myself....where am i heading towards? Starting my childhood days...i've always been thinking about my destiny....the reason for my existence with a firm belief that i have something special to do on this earth. I definitely got a clue over here...:-)

I started pondering over the stages of human life. One starts his/her life in a loving family...goes to school...then to college...start working...(probably) gets married...enters another cycle of family life....and thats it...a vicious circle of human race. You meet good people...have nice experiences...and vice versa. This is Life...but then the destiny of your life is "you" urself. ...every decision lies with you....every experience speaks from within...every spiritual goal ends up in realizing your identity....every prayer is to cleasen youself from negative thoughts....all the power is within you soul...A person who has "realized himelf" has found his destiny. We ought to go by our instincts coz they call it "MAKHTUB" and "When you really want something, When you desire it will all your heart, all the universe conspires in helping you achieve it"...:-)

Alchemist indeed is an excellent piece of writing!

Perspective!

Its been quite a long time since i hit this url!!
Well..life has taken various twists-n-turns lately....but finally i am happy. It feels so great that i have justified my being..my position. I dont know what is in store for me in future....but atleast it gives me immense pleasure to cherish these moments for now!
My learning has stopped not even for a single second. You meet different kinda people...different opinions...different perspectives...and everyone boasts of having the right attitute (probably i am also included here!:-)). But yes...one must rely on his/her conscious decision whenever in dilemma and ....i believe that is the solution for every ache!
I observed the sanity of this statement --> "one who moves, wins!" At times we just need to take a single step...one small effort and you are on the shore...Life becomes beautiful only when you sense the beauty of it otherwise it is all full of pain, sorrows blah blah blah...(trust me...'your perspective' matters the most!)
I have written all my experiences here without mentioning the actual incidents(must be boring for a few!). But this is my space and so are my thoughts.......hee hee...

Something....

With each passing day i am learning more and more truths of life. The very facts which were all said and known are part of my experience now. Life seems so easy at times......and suddenly you get embroiled in a hell. Apparently God tests only those people whom he wants to be strong.
I have been witnessing the plight of few of my knowns lately ....there is no dearth of pain in their lives. I too feel bad and .....sad to boot.

We can never expect life to be fair all the time.....we dont know what will happen tomorrow.....we dont know if somebody will change outrageously....we cannot assume unconditional affection from anybody.....the gist is that we are all ignorant about our future..... which is a little scary if u dig deep but still there is something which is driving us forward.... something which brings smile on our face....something which we want to achieve and get cheerful about......something which is all about happiness....something which makes us forget our bad times......something which relaxes our mind.....something which gives us patience to handle things....something which gives us power to control situations.....something which is imperceptible .... yet has a strong impact.
I believe that "something" is within us and God helps us in understanding, realizing and shaping out that "something" through bad times...........

"Life shrinks and expands in proportion to one's courage. "

I was watching one "Sa Re Ga Ma Pa Li'l champs" episode just a few mins back. Got impressed by my favourite contestent Diwakar Sharma's voice again. I respect him, like him for what he is. He is one of those rarest individuals who are God-Gifted and who accepted "Him" without any complaint. What an admirable personality, a big heart, an honest attitute, an outstanding student. The way he deals with the comments from the judges is quite commendable. Undoubtedly the credit goes to his parents. Hats off to them who gave their child an awesome upbringing, a much needed encouragent, embroiling those high values and inculcating tremendous confidence making Diwakar such a great inspiraton for everybody. I got surprised when the judges were fighting with each other over Diwakar's grading and performance. It was sick. This show is meant for sweet little kids to dream Big and what a wonderful impression they left on those young minds. Also, the other day it was ridiculous to see judges demanding more expresssions from Diwakar while singing. Anyways keeping these things aside (since i dont give a hoot what they think) , i really enjoy watching this show.

In addition, i admire Shaan for being such an astounding host, for handling things with affection and care, for making small statements with a remarkably big punch at times (I like this THE most!! :-) ).

Lets see who will become the winner of the show (probably the deserving one) but yeah honestly speaking Diwakar is my Winner!! He is a true champ!!

I EXPECT him to reach the zenith of success....

"If you ever drop your keys into a river of molten lava, let 'em go, because, man, they're gone...."

I have been wondering about the role of management in a firm from the past so many days. What is an ideal manager, a perfect team, an examplary work-environment and most-importantly satisfactory work! Management need not always motivate their employess for performing better but instead have to stop de-motivating them. From an employee's vista, certain things are implicitly communicated to the management which ought to be understood by them in order to perform smoothly or else they should get prepared to face the perils of the frustation. Management should be really articulate in what they intend to do. Sugar-coating difficult situations, dispassionate decisions, obdurate refusals are nothing but an absolute hog-wash. What is required for getting 100% from your employee is a piffling amount of recognition. Just a pat on the back saying 'Gud Work' would do, i guess! Commanding and controlling language is sure fire path to demotivation. There is a need to consistently maintain an ardent workforce.

Monetary benefits (or say pay), recognition of your work, appreciation for your accomplishments, good work-environment are a few defined, irreplaceable needs for an employee. No one factor can substitute the other.

Another way of incorporating demotivated environment is by squeezing the sense of security from an employee's mind. Just let them know that their jobs (or say appraisels) would be in jeopardy if they do not meet the expectations, do not complete tasks on time, do not perform well. I mean, I dont think there is any employee who does not want to perform THE best. Okay say, a few % are there who would work for the sake of work only.....but then management can not and should not generalize and explicitly state and instill this sort of insecurity in their minds.
Management should be smart but not oversmart because oversmart are the one's who are not smart!! Anyways, a good employee is the one who self-motivates himself/herself and let those managerial guys know about their incapability of holding that position.

Well enough for now...after a few days hiatus i think this was a nice topic for my blog!

Expectations from Reservations...

Entire nation is wondering over the cabinet's offer(or a decision?) to reserve seats in prestigious insitutions like IIT and IIMs and other medical colleges. What seems to be the most astonishing fact is that the government itself has so many intellectuals yet they are so adamant about this proposal and that too on the basis of caste. Who says that lower caste people are deprived of any luxuries in our country. Our Government is ready to give admission to a rich lower caste candidate against the poor upper class one. Why this discrimination and unjustice to the quality of education that we get in these world-class institutions. This callousness towards deserving candidates, towards the quality of education is totally inadmissible. Almost 50% seats are reserved for the privileged lower caste people keeping aside their economic status and other factors. In future, how can we trust an undeserving(or may be deserving for that matter) privileged lower class medical doctor who might have completed his/her study on the basis of these reservations. And why just this field.... engineering, business, masters...all have the same story. And posterity will blame us for not producing an integrated, unpolluted society.Education reservations should NOT be made at higher levels where it is just mandatory to cross the threshold only by the deserving candidates. Just lifting the candidates on caste basis will ruin the objectives and standards of these institutions. There are so many options open with our government. Mr.Arjun Singh has sidelined the basis of these reservations which is Primary Education. Why dont they make more reservations for the children and bear all the cost. This will serve our purpose in a more fruitful way and preserve our identity as an Indian. And most importantly, such reservations should not be caste-based but Economic. We should uplift those sections of society who are deprived of quality education due to one reason or the other and help them overcome it starting from below and maintaining the standard upto the hilt.Our government has left we indians with no other option but to protest. And the efforts put forth by doctors all over india is just commendable.No Idea what exactly the government is EXPECTING from this act....(Politics....hmmm.)!!

Expectations...

People say that although I do my best every time, I face disappointments quite often. Disappointment comes from expectations – expectations from your work, family, colleagues and from your precious friends. The chances are most likely when your anticipations are much more than what life can offer. But does that mean we should stop dreaming or limit our thinking? Of course not, we must have that constant urge to do things, that faith in ourselves, that unconquerable will to win. As long as we trust ourselves, nothing can be denied to us. So what exactly required is the power to do things and to accept the defeats. The other way is to stop expecting anything from what you do. So what you don’t get satisfaction at your workplace! So what your friends betrayed you! So what somebody misunderstood you! so what you lost a close friend….so what? Yeah so what…..I never expected life to be fair always. Apparently it’s not that easy to digest these facts. But after pondering for a while I realized that it’s of no use either to keep cursing yourself for everything, for blaming yourself for every damned result. Everything happens by His will and I have experienced it to be good always. You know what you did; you know you gave what was required, so leave aside those unexpected results. A person ought to convince himself/herself to be correct; there is no need for any other confirmation. We admit or not but everything lies in our hands only, we choose how to react. If we want to be happy we just have to prove it. One always makes mistakes, that is life but then we have to learn as well. And one simple funda of a peaceful life is to stop yelling and just make your mindset to laugh our mistakes off!!