Tuesday, April 25, 2006
Expectations...
People say that although I do my best every time, I face disappointments quite often. Disappointment comes from expectations – expectations from your work, family, colleagues and from your precious friends. The chances are most likely when your anticipations are much more than what life can offer. But does that mean we should stop dreaming or limit our thinking? Of course not, we must have that constant urge to do things, that faith in ourselves, that unconquerable will to win. As long as we trust ourselves, nothing can be denied to us. So what exactly required is the power to do things and to accept the defeats. The other way is to stop expecting anything from what you do. So what you don’t get satisfaction at your workplace! So what your friends betrayed you! So what somebody misunderstood you! so what you lost a close friend….so what? Yeah so what…..I never expected life to be fair always. Apparently it’s not that easy to digest these facts. But after pondering for a while I realized that it’s of no use either to keep cursing yourself for everything, for blaming yourself for every damned result. Everything happens by His will and I have experienced it to be good always. You know what you did; you know you gave what was required, so leave aside those unexpected results. A person ought to convince himself/herself to be correct; there is no need for any other confirmation. We admit or not but everything lies in our hands only, we choose how to react. If we want to be happy we just have to prove it. One always makes mistakes, that is life but then we have to learn as well. And one simple funda of a peaceful life is to stop yelling and just make your mindset to laugh our mistakes off!!
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It seems it is coming straight from your heart.
Defintely don't keep on worrying about things.When u did ur best...leave the rest.U cannot be good always but always remain answerable to ur conscience.If ur intentions were honest ...then focussing on it will always keep u smiling.Priortise ur things and u know for what u r doing what.
keep writing .......
Good luck.
hai Rupi,
If one expects something and does not get it,may it be work, may it be friends, may it be any other kind of expectation.. one should not be disappointed. If we make a new dish by watching a TV show like khana khazana or something, we do expect that it will be good .. right.. it may not come out THAT good or as perfect as its ahown in the TV but we do eat it hoping that we will get it done perfectly the next time we make it.. The same simple thing can be applied to all the rest of the stuff also.
Whatever your work is, dignify it with your best thought and effort.
Nice Blog.... :-)
You r right roopie but loosing a precious friend is something not in ur hands. It is upto the person to value your friendship without expectations. As far as our conscience is concerned, we need not expect anything from friends but still value their friendship. Small incidents might turn friends to indifferent humans but such volte-faces are always prone to these kind of litmus tests. Value your friends forever no matter how they react to situations.
well said rupi
This is the very essence of life where we have to put the whole hearted effort into whatever we are doing. The result could be positive or negative. When its negative, it should only make us strong and strive hard to achieve our goal ignoring the time its been achieved. But yes there will be somethings which need to be forgotten and move ahead with life. Good blog and keep writing.
Hmm! Personally I find the idea of not setting any expectations at all, quite quixotic. There is an implicit expectation in everything one does these days if not an explicit one. If I get happy about my boss appreciating me that is because I "expected" nothing from him. If I sleep in the night then it is with an "expectation" that I will get up in the morning. If I set anonymous commenting ON for my blog then it is with an "expectation" that people will be giving me comments. ;)
Coming to the idea of "power to do things and to accept the defeats", I think it's good to have but, it's not always human nature to simply shutup and take it even after a lot of defeats. Also, I would prefer to face each of my defeats with a different emotion rather than just keep learning from them or ignoring them or just accepting them all the time. I would like to get visibly angry sometimes while I want to silently regret sometimes also. End of day, I would like to experience the whole spectrum of human stimuli rather than just a chosen subset by limiting my expectations or taking everything in the right spirit.
Though I am not in total agreement with the central idea of the blog I appreciate the effort. Kudos to Rupinder for putting it forth.
And I am definitely going to be extra cautious if Suhasini ever invites me to a meal she has cooked herself. :) Just kidding!
/PhaKuDi
Hi Rupi,
I agree with ur point on expectations. Well I also feel that setting up correct expectations at correct time never makes us feel down or hurted. Expectations are always set when we feel some attachment with a thing.... may be ur work ur relation or anything else.....so a positive point about expectation is that u have some attachment with that thing from which u expect something.......
Hi rupi
I agree with u, because it is happening to me now.There are lot of expectations, but they cannot be completed in one go.U see to control our emotions is the best bet, because everything is possible in world but the jist lies in consistently working with concentration without effecting ourself from the outside world. Things will not happen to turn out good always but the winner is who maintain his/her calm without taking his/her feeling of failure too seriously
Though noone is perfect and each and every person has his/her technique to keep his/her pace back to life...can be yelling(by taking out inner emotions and forget about it..),can be friends(to talk to..) and one should find such a source to set things back to normal and feel good about everything u do..(doesnt matter if it may turn out to be worse thing ever...)(because world is not going to end after that :))
good obeservation of the mindset...
Anjali.
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